Teen Gothic

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I was raised by goth parents. I have 3 other siblings that are goth as well. But I realize now that I’m 20 there is no one else around me that is goth. For 20 years I have no goth friends and never met other goth people. Sure I see some at the mall in another town. But in my town I never met another goth. I feel so alone. I want more people I can relate to. My dad has always told me that “being a goth is getting use to being a black sheep”. I get it. But is it normal to not have any goth friends? And is it normal to not have other goths in your area?

(Some cool old photos I’ve found of my parents. Thought it was cool)

I'm in a fairly conservative area of a South-Eastern European country and while alternative and goth people are not unknown, there are virtually no spaces for us, no goth clubs of any kind and if any exist they're on an entirely informal basis. On top of that i'm kind of androgynous and i get weird glares for my outfits and long hair anytime i walk out, including whispered comments. I feel severely disconnected as a result.

Watching people here post images of their goth club experiences, being able to dress up and have fun, listen to music and dance is heartbreaking for someone who is in the closet and has no real venue for this. Anyone else in a similar situation?

For some reason there are a lot of those

A week or two ago, I had a substitute teacher in one of my classes. He was an older gentleman and I was dressed more overtly goth than usual, so I was worried about how I would be received. I said good morning to him and he gave me a big grin, then asked if I was goth. I said yes and he said “That’s lovely! I like your dress. My granddaughter likes long dresses like that.” He single-handedly made my day 🙂

Do y’all have any unexpected wholesome encounters like this? I would love to hear about them!

Take care, and have a lovely day 🖤🦇

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After insisting she see it, I showed my mom my Playlist. The first song I played was Bats by scary bitches and then Spellbound by Siouxsie….She told me I had goth music all wrong, and that kids these days are rebranding the whole thing. She was certainly alternative and in the punk scene back in her high-school and early adult days, so I told her to play me some bands or songs she considered to be goth and she followed that by playing Marilyn Manson and Nine inch nails. I'm still fairly new to goth music so you tell me what you think about this.. Thanks for reading!

Is it just me or has there been a serious uptick in people trying to find “where the goths are” or more into focus the “where are the goth girls at?”. I have been into the “subculture” for a few years. Even wrote for the site Darkest Goth for a while. I know there’s always been a fetishization of goth women, but I feel like I see it more now and more blatantly.

So my question is, am I just dense and have been missing it for the last 20 years, or is it getting more prevalent? Also, how the fuck do people deal with it?

Thanks!